The perception that "men can't be sexually assaulted" because a "real man" can protect himself may cause males to feel invulnerable to sexual assault. It may also intensify feelings of isolation and shame after an assault occurs. At times, some male survivors question their sexual orientation.

Feelings of guilt, shame, and anger may lead to self-destructive behavior, including increased alcohol or other drug use, increased aggressiveness, and withdrawal from close relationships with friends and partner. After being sexually assaulted, male survivors may experience difficulties with intimacy, such as trusting people, or exploring new relationships. All victims/survivors need to understand that recovery may take time. They need to have patience with themselves and resist the pressure to be sexually active before they are ready.

Sexual assault can lead men to attach feelings of self-blame and self-loathing to their gender identification. Sexual assault of a heterosexual man may cause him to question his sexual orientation. Sexual assault may lead a gay male to believe he somehow "deserved it," or that he was "paying the price" for his sexual orientation. Ignorance or intolerance from those who blame the victim/survivor can reinforce this belief.

Some sexual assaults of males are actually forms of gay-bashing, motivated by fear and hatred of homosexuality. In these cases, perpetrators may verbally abuse their victims and imply that the victim deserved to be sexually assaulted. It's important to remember that sexual assault is an act of violence, power, and control and that no one deserves it.

Healing from sexual assault is possible for men. The Rape Crisis Center is here to help. If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual violence, please call to speak to an advocate on our 24 hour hotline – 702-366-1640 or e-mail This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it

Common questions and concerns

1. I feel so alone. I don't know where to go for support.

Being a survivor of rape challenges every aspect of our lives. As a man, it is difficult to admit to being victimized, even to ourselves. It is important to remember that the rape was not your fault, no matter what the circumstances. Try reaching out for help at The Rape Crisis Center, reading the stories of other men, and giving yourself credit for each step you take.

Plan to attend one of The Rape Crisis Center’s support groups. Call 702-385-2153 or e-mail This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it

2. I thought rape only happened to women.

This is a myth that many people still believe. Rape or sexual assault can happen to anyone. Reports of male rape are on the rise as awareness increases and survivors (or the survivor's family in the case of a male child) feel that they can take the step of reporting this crime. The current statistics from the FBI state that 1 in 7 males will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime.

Plan to attend one of The Rape Crisis Center’s support groups. Call 702-385-2153 or e-mail This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it

3. Does being raped by a man mean that I will be gay?

No. Sexuality is a complex and hard to understand continuum of feelings. Being sexually assaulted or raped is not sex, it is assault. All acts of violence are confusing on many levels. Look for support and information from The Rape Crisis Center. Plan to attend one of The Rape Crisis Center’s support groups.